Chapter 6, Section 3.1 of the "Guy Code" handbook clearly states that: "When a ride, race, road trip, or bike related purchase is discussed among fellow riders, it is be held secret until all the riders have been able to discuss it with their spouse and seek appropriate approvals."
Recently, on more than one occasion, my wife has found out about a bike trip or bike race from my friends before I've been able to plant the seed and talk to her about it (Lotoja, Palm Desert...). I've been lucky so far. She has been very cool about it and usually only requires that she gets to spend an equivalent amount on something for herself (pillows or jeans seem to be the default).
But one of these days, I won't be so lucky. It's only happened to me a few times which is impressive considering that 2 of my brothers-in-law ride, my twin brother rides, and all my riding friends have very cool wives who are good friends with Rachelle. Once a friend or family member leaks the plan to their wife, it usually only takes a few hours for the word to get out.
Nothing catches me off guard more than walking in the door from work and Rachelle saying "So, you're doing Lotoja again, huh?".
So it is my proposal that we all put on our water buffalo hats, meet at the EQ parking lot tonight at 8:30pm , and review the rules over a night ride.